Written by Dan LaValla
Friday, 16 November 2012 00:00
Hurricane Sandy just hit our region a few days ago and I have been unable to return to work because the entire Borough of Hatfield, PA where Biblical Seminary is located, has been without power since the storm hit three days ago. Much of our area has large pockets of homes and businesses without electrical power. My family was very fortunate because we did not lose power and only sustained minor damage (a tree was blown over by straight winds and we need to replace some trim on our garage).
While I have been living in the Philadelphia region for 25 years, I grew up in a small town northeast of Syracuse, New York. As a result, it was natural for me to call on friends and neighbors to see how they were managing either through the storm or after and whether or not they needed assistance. As a result, during the past few days, we hosted a couple of acquaintances: providing them with meals, a bed to sleep in, heat, shelter, etc. However, it was interesting how much reassurance it took to let people know they would not be an inconvenience if they took us up on the offer to shelter them in our home or to receive resources that we could share.
The responses from the people I called made me recall a book I read several years ago, The Search to Belong: Rethinking Intimacy, Community and Small Groups © 2003 by Joseph R. Myers. One of the main premises of the book is how our culture is good at providing people with plenty of opportunities to develop relationships at public and intimate levels. However, in our culture, we are finding fewer opportunities to develop relationships between these two extremes, at levels he identifies as social and personal. Reasons for this include: modern architecture and community planning (homes are further from the road and rarely have a porch where neighbors gather socially), technologies that have made our lives busier, technologies that give us more things to do in our homes rather than venturing outside for social activities, affluence that has increased our sense of independence, etc.
With respect to the missional character of Christianity, these unconscious barriers to social and personal relationships pose a great challenge to the 21stcentury Church in the U.S. The missional call of God requires real-life social interaction. One of Jesus’ primary commands to Christians is, to “love your neighbor as yourself.” However, in order for love to be given, someone must be willing to receive it. If people tend to live in their comfort zones and avoid uncomfortable situations, then it is likely that our culture will increasingly create generations that have fewer and fewer social and personal relationships. Christians will need to overcome such personal discomfort as they reach out and find ways to help people around them feel comfortable with social and personal relationships.
Dan LaValla is Director of Library Services and Development Associate for Institutional Advancement at Biblical. He is Chair of the Endowment Committee for the American Theological Library Association and is very active in his church and community, coaching youth baseball and football and has served on several community boards. See also http://www.biblical.edu/index.php/daniel-lavalla.